Married, but attracted to someone else. This can be yucky

Rosh found himself in a dream land. He was busy hugging and kissing a lady he had always fantasized about. The joy of being with this beautiful lady was so pleasant to Rosh that when he woke up he was busy squeezing his pillow. To his amazement his spouse was wide awake looking on as he enjoyed his dreamland adventure.

His wife burst out with a loud voice ‘what was the meaning of that?’ Looking so tamed and confused Rosh quickly jumped out of the bed and headed straight to the shower. That way he avoided the question from his wife which of course he didn’t have any convincing answer.

“We really aren’t responsible for our dreams–EXCEPT we are more likely to dream about things that we have thought about recently.”

But sometimes random things just creep into our dreams, and it has nothing to do with anything I guess, but in the case of Rosh, he had always been attracted to Lucy although he was happily married.

Dreams don’t have to have any reflection in reality, but the emotions were real. Rosh was so much entangled with this dreamland romance.

This brings me to this very important question. Is being attracted to someone an emotional affair or not. An emotional affair I believe is when one or both persons share an intimate part of themselves with the other.

Even that by itself, however, does not define an emotional affair. That could describe nothing more than a good, healthy friendship, although if it is with a member of the opposite sex, it probably gets very close to crossing some lines.

Recently I heard a story which was very ‘yucky’ to discuss. The wife of a bishop confessed to being attracted to a male member of the same church. Could this be serious? If you were in such a struggle what will be your decision?

We live in a day and time when attraction and lust seem to be confused to mean an affair. Is it possible to be attracted to a member of the opposite sex but yet not develop anything explicit out of such relationships?

During some of the worst seasons of a marriage, It can be possible that any of the parties might have an affair, and it usually started out as an emotional affair.

Wanting something else apart from what ones has could be the first pointer. Rosh was happily married but he just wanted to be with this other lady he was still attracted to.

Could this happen to anyone? How do we control the lust that is borne out of attraction for someone else other than your wife or husband?

Having a crush might not necessarily end up in an emotional affair, however wanting something else either than what you have could be dangerous.

Is liking someone the same as ‘wanting’ them?

Watch Out for my next blog as the story unfolds…